Fidelity vs. Monogamy

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From Merriam-Webster Online:

Definition of FIDELITY
1a : the quality or state of being faithful
b : accuracy in details : exactness
2 : the degree to which an electronic device (as a record player, radio, or television) accurately reproduces its effect (as sound or picture)

Definition of MONOGAMY
1 (archaic) : the practice of marrying only once during a lifetime
2 : the state or custom of being married to one person at a time
3 : the condition or practice of having a single mate during a period of time

They’re not the same thing. If they were the same thing, they’d be the same word with the same meaning. It’s all well and good if you’re for monogamy. Have at it. Be my guest. But when you start rolling your eyes at me or acting like you’re so very much more superior to me because you’re monotonous monogamous and I’m getting laid, I’m going to call you on your bullshit. My relationship is not affecting your relationship one teensy tiny little bit. If your “monogamous” partner is sleeping around and you blame everyone with an open relationship for that? Yeah, I’ma get all up in your shit. It is not my fault that he’s playing on the down-low. Maybe you should keep your man satisfied.

This is coming up because of this article, not because of anything that happened. I couldn’t even make it past the second page because the author was pissing me off so badly (if anyone else finishes it, please tell me if it’s satire, so I can try to force my way through it).

Every relationship is different. Every relationship also has rules. If the first rule of your relationship is “don’t sleep with anyone else” and that works for you, mazel tov. When I play, Leon knows about it. I also try (try; I don’t always succeed) to stay away from guys who are in “monogamous” relationships. “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” doesn’t work for the military, and it sure as hell doesn’t work for (most) relationships. Do not presume to tell me how to handle my relationship.


LQ Day 3: [Enter pithy title]

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Yeah, I couldn’t come up with a title. Maybe tomorrow.

The biggest thing off my to-do list yesterday was that I submitted my Petition to Graduate. I assume they’ll check everything in my current transcript and they’ll tell me it’s okay for me to graduate at the end of the quarter, provided I pass my current classes. I can’t tell you how good it feels to have that done.

My first day of classes went well. Spanish isn’t going to be a large challenge, but it will be a challenge. On the plus side, I don’t need to take my netbook to school this quarter; we’re in a computer lab for Comm200, and there’s no way I could type my notes in Spanish while she’s talking. I would miss way too much. I have to actually watch her talk, for the most part. She lectures about half in Spanish and half in English. I don’t know or remember enough of my Spanish from high school to catch everything, but I’m starting to pick up on a few small things. We learned the alphabet yesterday, something I remembered pretty well. We’ll see what Thursday brings

Comm200? Again, not much of a challenge. Quickbooks and Desktop Publishing are just going to take some motivation to deal with. I need to do some homework tonight for Comm200, and I should probably crack my Desktop Publishing and Quickbooks textbooks. I tried the other night with Quickbooks and fell asleep trying to read it. Yeah.


LQ Day 2: I gots class!

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I’ve got my COMM200 and Spanish 101 class today for the first time. I’ve got everything for my online classes, but these two are in person, and they have nothing posted on Blackboard. I like having Blackboard stuff even for in-class classes; without it, I feel a little lost and somewhat mistrustful of the teachers. We’ll see how that goes. I may also decide to take either my Quickbooks book or my Publisher book and go in early (which is a very distinct possibility). Hm. Maybe not; I’ve gotta pick up my portfolio from my adviser (HI BETH!) and I’m not sure that it’ll all fit in my backpack with my computer and such in there. We’ll see. I may just sit around and knit before class, too. That’s also an option.

I should also do a knitting update. I’ve got a few things to talk about and to show off. Maybe this weekend. It’ll give me time to photograph and block at least one project that I finished.


LQ Day 01: Yes, I know.

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I know I’ve tried this daily blogging thing before; I’m hoping I make better progress this time out.

I’m trying something new with the internship/job. I’m going to try for business casual on my work days and whatever I want to wear on school days. It’s probably something I should have been doing all along, but I’ve been… well, frankly, lazy and didn’t want to put on pants when shorts would do. Fridays will be jeans, and I’m probably gonna stick with tennis shoes (although, I may change that as well. *sigh*).

So far, and it’s only been a few hours since the quarter actually started, I’m relatively upbeat, even though I didn’t sleep well after getting to bed about 1:00 A.M. and not getting to sleep until after 2:30 A.M. I have only myself to blame, though. The Stardance trilogy has me by the face again. Oooh, speaking of which, I need to make sure The Killers are on the jPod.


Last quarter!

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In just 12 weeks, I will graduate from Columbus State with my Associate of Applied Science degree. I’m looking forward to September 9 more than I can tell you.

My class schedule this quarter is as follows:

  • Monday: BOA 270/271 – Seminar and Practicum. My internship. I’ll be in the Financial Aid department, doing what I can to assist the Scholarship Coordinator. This is the same position I’ve had for the last quarter. I’m very good at what I do, but the project I’m on right now, while incredibly important, is also incredibly huge as well as OMG BORING. However, I get to listen to my jPod, and that makes all the difference. I’ve got PLENTY of books on CD to listen to, and I’m enjoying the heck out of them. Currently, I’m in the middle of Diane Duane’s Young Wizard series (I start A Wizard Abroad tomorrow), and when I get through all of them, I have the Wheel of Time series — in entirety, sans the final book which is to be released in November, I believe — to listen to.
  • Tuesday: COMM 200 – Business Communications // SPAN 101 – Elementary Spanish I. BusComm should be cake. Spanish is a class that, if I need to drop a class, I can drop. I just wanted the challenge of an off-class and a language to put on my resume.
  • Wednesday: See Monday
  • Thursday: See Tuesday
  • Friday: See Monday

In addition, I also have online courses:

  • BOA 167 – Desktop Publishing. Yay for Publisher! I’m looking very forward to this.
  • BOA 113/114 – Quickbooks I & II. Another YAY class.

All told, that’s 17 credits for my final quarter. My advisor looked at me like I came unglued. She may be right. HI, BETH!

Oh, for the online courses, we’re required to participate (well, maybe not necessarily required, but we do get points for participating) in discussion boards. My intro has changed every quarter for these things. The current one is:

I’m Jeremy. I’m 38, have a wonderful partner of 8 1/2 years (who says gay relationships don’t last?), and we have a 4-year-old long-haired dachshund named Belle. I’m a gamer, a knitter (yes, really), I love science fiction and fantasy books.

This is my sixth and final quarter here; if everything goes the way it should, I will graduate on September 9. This is one of my save-for-last classes (Quickbooks I and II are the others), and I’ve been looking forward to it for over a year. I’ve been an administrative assistant for most of the last 15 years. I came back to school in March of 2010 as a way to hone my skills (and, um, CSCC has made sure that they are razor sharp — I was good before I came into the program, but holy crap, have I gotten better; my 3.96 GPA is proof, something of which I’m very proud) and to give myself an added boost in the feeding frenzy job hunt.

Chat me up. I’m kind of awesome. 😉

Yeah. I’m so very ready to graduate.